More Employee Enhancement

This is my latest installment of Employee Enhancement, published in our BCCS Staff Newsletter

Employee Enhancement – Improving the Lives of BCCS Employees, One Newsletter Column at a Time

Self – Care Strategies

This installment of Employee Enhancement will provide an overview of the importance of Self-Care and some strategies you can try. Often in the process of helping others, we may forget to take care of ourselves. It is a universal phenomenon in this helping profession. It is also one of the main reasons why there is such a high burnout and turnover rate throughout our field. Those helping professionals who know how to take care of themselves as they care for others are those who are happier and healthier in their professional lives.

This is often much easier said than done. We all are aware that we need to take breaks, enjoy hobbies, and get enough rest. Yet, think about it – how many times have you sacrificed some of these necessities in the name of getting your work done? We’ve all been there. And sometimes it’s incredibly important for you to work longer hours – especially if you are behind in your work, there is a customer crisis, or if there is a pending audit. These are the times where taking a break comes secondary.  The key is to find the balance and be able to determine your own self-care needs, while maintaining your professional accountability.

Here is a way to help you find the balance: on a slower day, start building a routine of caring for yourself. Refer to the list of ideas below. Incorporate them into your daily routine so they become a habit. This will assist you when a crisis arises, since you will feel calmer and better able to handle it. This will also assist in times of higher work load. You will be able to favor work tasks over self-care tasks since your overall emotional health will be stronger.

Think of it as running a marathon. Those who undertake this experience don’t wake up the morning of the big race and just run, without ever practicing. No, the opposite is true. Those who run marathons train for months, even years, to build their endurance and practice the skills. Then they are ready to undertake a huge race. The same is true for self-care. You need to practice on a daily basis to build your skills and to develop the stamina and tools necessary to be ready to deal with any crisis or time constraint that comes along.

We will be discussing Self-Care as part of trainings throughout the agency. Some of you have already received this training. I hope you are able to apply some of the principles. For those who have not yet received an in-depth overview of all things Self-Care, here is a brief list of tools you can begin to utilize. Try a few to see what works best for you. Have fun with it! And please share additional strategies with your team members so everyone can benefit from your ideas!

Humor

Laughing is such a vital tool in our profession. Share funny jokes and stories with your co-workers and instantly feel some stress relief.

Meditation

Focused, deep breathing relaxes your thoughts and, in turn, your body. We take for granted our need to breathe. Stopping to take a deep breath before handling a situation can help keep you focused. So take a deep, cleansing breath!

Journaling

Writing is a very effective tool to physically get any stressful thoughts out of your head. Any form of writing helps, whether in a journal or simply on a piece of paper.

Visualization

Close your eyes and form an image in your mind that is peaceful and stress free. You can even keep a picture of that image at your desk or in your wallet to look at in moments of stress. I know for me, one look at my daughter and all the stress melts away.

Exercise

Regular exercise is invaluable in stress relief. You don’t need to do anything strenuous; a simple walk can be effective. Yoga and stretching are also beneficial – take a moment to stretch at your desk or walk around the block. Some people take a smoke break – feel free to take a “fresh air break”!

Dear Food, We Need to Talk

I have had a complicated relationship with food for as long as I can remember. For some periods of my life, it was total pleasure, for others, I limited my overall intake to the point of dangerous. Food and I have not had the best relationship … until now. This is my letter to food laying the clear groundwork of our relationship from now on.

Dear Food,

First off, let me say thank you. Thank you for sustaining life for all of us. Thank you for your variety of flavors, textures, and aromas. Thank you for forever evolving and changing based on seasons and based on which new restaurant chain is most trendy. Thank you.

Okay, now for the hard part. I must tell you that my relationship with you will forever change, starting now. As you know, I have enjoyed all of your many varieties, and  have tended to stick to those that are sweeter, and more comforting. You know that I have recently given up your sugary assortments. You also know how you have attempted to lure me back, and sometimes were successful. Kudos to you.

Now I must choose to eliminate all that is not healthy for my body and for my soul.

Now our relationship will be purely business. You will provide me with a reasonable and appropriate amount of wholesome energy. I will only choose those foods that are natural, pure, fresh and healthy.

No more comfort, no more reward, no more gorging on that which does not serve any purpose what-so-ever. I hope you will understand.

I know you doubt me. I can hear you saying “Whatever, you’ll be back. You’ll pass a McDonald’s and be in an instant trance and the next thing you know you are scarfing down my luscious french fries. You can’t fool me.” Well, in case you didn’t already notice, it has been close to one year since I’ve had so much as one french fry from Mia’s Happy Meal. No french fries, no soda, nothing fried, nothing artificial, no donuts, no candy … none of it. I have even had a box of Munchkins passed right in front of my face and I didn’t even blink. Munchkins. You and I both know how much I have craved every single donut that has crossed my path. No more. It’s over. You no longer complete me.

So goodbye to your empty promises. To your short lived pleasure of somewhat good taste. It took me many years to finally realize that those seductive tastes are not worth the outcome. Not worth the stomach issues, the headaches, the highs and lows, the mood swings, the weight, the lack of energy, the bloating, the overall shit feeling you leave me with. Not worth it.

Fresh vegetables. Fresh fruits. Meats and grains. I feel energy and stamina when I eat these. Fuel. I can work longer and train harder. My stomach is better. My mood is better. I am not fixated on food. Not over thinking and planning my next meal. I do not revolve around you. That energy I wasted on planning for you or attempting to avoid your clutches is now much better spent on living my nourished life.

I feel alive. Free from your seduction. I get it now. You don’t really comfort or please or reward me. No. You mock me as I recover from your sugar high. You lure me back with the hope of feeling better next time. Nope. I’m onto you now. I can very easily tell the healthy from the disappointing from among your harvest. I am in control.

I know it has been a complicated relationship. We have had some good times. Now it’s going to be simple. Our relationship will be more meaningful  because I will truly cherish all the bountiful, healthy selections you have to offer. My focus will be on the foods that will sustain and energize me. This is how it’s going to be.

You’ll get used to it. Fortunately (or unfortunately) there are plenty more people who will enjoy all the crap food I’m leaving behind.

Related post: Oh Sugar, How I Love (HATE!) You

Our Little Rock Star in Training

Rich has been playing guitar for years. Mia has been watching Rich play guitar since she was born. She’s always loved music – which is fitting since we both love music. We’ve given her Barbie guitars, toy drums and other instruments that she has just delighted in playing. She sings, she dances, she plays instruments. Our little music lover.

Rich recently gave Mia her first real guitar. It was his first guitar he ever bought. Now he’s passed it to her. Of course she’s not fully playing, yet she understood the mechanics of it right away. In the picture above, she placed her hands this way. She is holding a pic and knows how it works. This from years of watching her Daddy. And from her strong musical instincts. Soon she’ll be playing. And booking gigs. Our little Rock Star.

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